Only the proud probably know this, but the flip side of pride is doubt. Self-doubt, to be specific.
This is important to know. Not so you can go around wigging out proud people. That would be fun, but hardly Christ-like.
No, it's important because everyone is plagued by self-doubt. Everyone.
Every time I hand my manuscript over to someone new, every time I post a comment on a message board, every time I write a post in this, my own blog, I struggle with how it will be perceived. When I reply to an email, I worry I'll be misunderstood.
Why? Because pride and doubt are the same thing: an intense focus on self.
Let this be a ray of hope to all you insecure folks out there. You, too, can appear just as proud as I do (if you wish). Here's how.
When I was young, I was told most people have no idea what they're doing most of the time. For this reason, when you walk into a room, act like you know what you're doing, and most folks will believe you do. Why? 'Cause they don't have a clue, either.
I cannot remember who told me this. It must have been someone I trusted.
This has been my SOP in new situations for most of my life. It works. When I was young, I was bossy, arrogant and proud when I did this. As I've matured and learned to inject a good dose of self-directed humor into situations, I am often perceived as confident and self-assured. This could not be further from the truth.
So, that's the secret. When you encounter the proud, bossy, arrogant person (or the calm, self-assured, in control person), realize - she's just as terrified as you are. She just hides it better.
I've focused a lot on pride this week. I wonder what God's trying to tell me.